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Concern is OK, control is not

Tracey Ask Tracey

Dear Tracey, I love my children but they’re driving me nuts. I finally moved to be closer to them, which meant giving up my life that I had been happily crafting for the last fifty years. It seemed easier for them if I lived closer.    I’m 79, single, and a retired librarian. I’m healthy, have my own apartment, passed …

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More than a cup of coffee …

Tracey Ask Tracey

Dear Tracey, I’ve been a widow for four years. Last year, I went to my 50th high school reunion. I couldn’t believe it but my old boyfriend was there and we had the best time. (He’s been divorced for ages.) It was as if no time had passed. We had such fun. It was so easy. We kept in touch …

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Political opinions and friendship

Tracey Ask Tracey

Q: My friend is still very upset about how the last national election turned out. He brings it up all of the time, complaining about how much better things would be if his party had won instead of mine. I am tired of it but haven’t said anything. What do I do? A: Speak up! Your friend will continue to …

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Safety First

Tracey Ask Tracey

Q: My kids want me to have “safety bars” installed in my bathroom and next to simple, three step staircase. I don’t think I need them. Those things are expensive and they look terrible. I’m very careful. How do I know if it’s time for things like this? A:  Generally speaking, by the time most adult children bring up these …

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A Tax Treat – Really!

Tracey Ask Tracey

Q: I’ve been doing my income taxes for 49 years and I’ve hated it every single year. For the first time ever, I want to hire somebody else to do it. I have the money to pay for this service. My neighbor thinks it is a waste of money. What do you think? A: I think it’s none of your …

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Retirement Planning

Tracey Ask Tracey

Q: My husband and I are both scheduled to retire next year. Our finances seem to be in order. What else should we be doing? A: Your husband is going to love this answer: talk, talk, talk about that train coming down the tracks! Okay, you can read about it too but please, just as you have planned for this …

The Grindstone

Back to work?

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Q: I’ve been retired for four years and I don’t like it. I have an opportunity to go back to work part-time. Do you think I should? A: Many people, after a few years of retirement, discover that a part-time job is exactly what they are missing. So, I’ll give you a qualified “yes” on this question as long as …

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Exercise Options

Tracey Ask Tracey

Q: I know I should exercise but I am extremely overweight. I can’t bring myself to walk into a gym. What do I do? A: I’m glad you are approaching this issue. The gym isn’t for everyone, myself included. Personally, I love my collection of exercise DVDs. I can pop one in whenever it’s convenient and have total privacy while …

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Going natural?

Tracey Ask Tracey

Q: I have been coloring my hair for years and I am sick of it – the time, effort, and expense is too much. DO you think I should let it go gray? A:  Women have told me that allowing their hair to go gray after years of dying it was one of the most liberating things they have done! …

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The Challenges of the Second Half

Tracey Ask Tracey

Q: What do you think is the hardest part of being our age? A: This was tough to answer, really tough. I think it may be battling this country’s obsessive youth driven culture, as well as how we second half folks are often viewed and portrayed. On the bright side, I believe we Baby Boomers are doing much to change …